When people ask me this seemingly simple question it’s always been hard for me to answer. I always thought everyone would be the same, I mean the variety is endless for a question like this. Although that hypothesis was rebuked when somehow every single person started to say that their favorite artist was Taylor Swift. It wasn’t something they had to even think about; they just knew the answer. Now as someone who never had a favorite artist or rather favorite anything this took me by surprise. So instead of telling you about a variety of favorite things like my last post. This one is gonna be about how I jump around.
Music Artist
Picking a favorite music artist is saying personally this one person or group makes the best songs out of everyone. There are so many people out there that make such amazing songs that for me saying that this one person is the top is something I can’t do. Truly I can’t even pick a language or music that I love the most. So the topic of picking a favorite artist is ridiculously hard for me. My playlist always ends up in a jumble of different artists that sing in different languages. From Tum hi ho by Arjit Singh to Bolo by Penomeco it’s been a mix. The music ends up getting shoved into different playlists just for the feeling that I have at the moment. Although with my array of different people there hasn’t really been one person that I have loved since middle school.
Desserts
There are so many types of desserts in the world from the splash of coffee slowly melting the decadent ice cream to spongy cakes filled with Swiss meringue buttercream and decadent caramel. Picking one through all of that is like trying to find your favorite lip tint through the assortment. Of course there are some that you dislike. For me it would be marshmallow fruit salad (that I will never try) or pudding. Every holiday ends up with their own types of deserts normally eaten during that time of the year. From fall being pies and cobblers and winter being anything mint flavored. Let’s not even talk about all the desserts from different cultures that could bring world peace.
Friends
I have never really realized this until this year, although slowly as the year has gone by I finally figured it out. I found out that I am someone that gets comfortable with people very quickly because of this I have ended up finding new people I become friends with really quickly. I have never found myself scared to go into class on the first day, being scared if I can make friends. Rather I will be thinking about how I pronounce my name when the teacher gets it wrong. Although with this easy comfortability with people comes also the feeling of having a lot of friends but not the main one. I have become someone that bounces friend groups easily because of that. For me that group of people that I tell everything to and it’s just them has never been there. Once I thought about it I realized that even in elementary school it has been the same way. The idea of just bouncing around and being there for a lot of different people. Although not one group that I can call my favorite. It has never been sad for me since I end up with a bunch of friends and with them their stories.
Seasons
I have always told people that I love spring since it was the easiest answer and sort of true. Although now with the weather not making up its mind that is not true. People have always told me that I am probably used to the cold with living in a state that is cold
for now basically 7 out of 12 months. Although that is not true, I am not used to it and probably will never be. The second the weather goes below 70℉ the heat gets cranked up and the 100’s of throws that I had stuffed in my closet in mid may have ended up on the ground of my bedroom. Half the time I end up walking around my house with a blanket shielding me from any nonexistent chill of air. It’s fall right now and it already is cold, and my mom is already stressing out about her vegetables in the garden that are gonna die. To me fall is just sad, the leaves are slowly gonna change color and fall off. Then you know snow is gonna fall soon, there comes the seasonal sadness from the sun always being covered by clouds and it being dark the second I come home. Let’s not even bring up summer, it’s just way too humid and somehow it feels sticky and gross the second I come out of my house. The humidity ends up making a perfect 80℉ day feel like 101℉. The only reason why spring ended up being the one I said whenever people asked about my favorite season was that you know the weather is gonna get warmer and all the tulips are going to come out soon. Spring feels like the season of hope and anticipation, and you know all the months of freezing snow is worth it with the flowers blooming. Although what used to be at least 2 months of that feeling has ended up dwindling itself down to what feels like barely a week.
SO GOOD!!!
Thank you for sharing your favorite aspects of life (desserts, music, friends and a seasons). I apologize for being one of those teachers that pronounced your name incorrectly. I enjoyed reading your thoughts here. Thanks for sharing.
These “what are your favorite” questions I also have a difficult time coming up with answers to. I think these questions are hard to answer because they’re so limiting, it’s always a struggle to come up with one single answer, to pick one I like the most amongst many things I like pretty much equally. I often find myself answering different things to the same question, like the favorite dessert one you mentioned. My usual answer is tiramisu, but if I’m in the mood for something more refreshing I might answer strawberry sorbet. I think your topic leads to an interesting pattern where we’re always told to pick one of something: pick one major, choose one career path. It is limiting and doesn’t really encourage people to have a large variety of passions and interests. Overall, I think you had an amazing topic and did a great job explaining the way it reflects in your personal life. I loved your post, Biswo
Hi Biswo! Overall I enjoyed reading your piece that shared your opinion on how difficult it is to pick a favorite of anything and everything. This was a very interesting blog post for me to read as with most things, I do not experience this same difficulty picking a favorite. I do not believe that picking a favorite means that you are necessarily selected as the best in that category, but simply that your favorite is your preferred choice within that category. For example, if you asked me my favorite food today, I would say pizza, not because I believe it is the best tasting food in the world but simply because it is enjoyable to me at this moment and if you gave me a choice that would be my go-to. Overall, it was interesting to read your perspective on picking a favorite because your experience is very different from mine and I appreciated the details and deliberation that went into each category that you discussed.
I definitely agree with your views on this question, favorites are always so difficult to pick. I’ve also always found myself jumping between friend groups, surrounded by different people each year. While my groups have changed, I feel like it is not necessarily because I prefer some over others, but just that my environments change. I do genuinely appreciate everyone I’ve grown close with though. As for the seasons, I feel like this is the one thing I can say definitively that I prefer the spring. Similar to you, temperature is a big thing for me and I will say that Spring is the only time where everything is just the right temperature. Sadly, Spring here does not last very long and the humidity is so terrible and the winters are so long. But, I think I’ve gained a greater appreciation for the fall recently. Overall, I loved your unique take on favorites, I feel like a lot of blogs have been about their top choices for something (including me) and this was definitely a refreshingly insightful take on that.
Biswo, I completely relate to your indecisiveness when it comes to choosing favorites! I hate being confined to just one favorite, especially in categories like desserts where there are so many good options, so I appreciate your insight on this topic. I am always changing my preferences as the seasons change, as I am exposed to new things, and as I get older and my taste matures, so I can never provide a reliable answer when asked about my favorites. I specifically like what you said about friends. Like you, I enjoy branching out to different people instead of limiting myself to only one friend group. This has worked out for me well socially, because when there is drama, I am never deeply involved. I think that when we limit ourselves to one single favorite: one dessert, one friend group, one season, our entire world can be limited. For example, if I said my favorite food was chicken tenders, and I ordered chicken tenders at every restaurant, I can’t try other foods that I could enjoy just as much and therefore, limiting my world.