Listen.
If there’s one thing I talk about more than anything – more than how much I loath math, more than the fact that my Honda minivan with the “Swim Mom” sticker on the back is named Deborah, more than how much I hate the fact (and love that) I play too much Animal Crossing: New Horizons — it’s my girlfriend. And, since I haven’t truly found a path I want to take with this blog, I get to talk about whatever I want.
Hey! Hi! My name is Meg, and I love my girlfriend!
If you have not listened to me talk any longer past that sentence (see above), congratulations! You know the base amount of information. Here is the rest:
- My girlfriend’s name is Eva.
- She is great to me (until she calls me a reject Elf on the Shelf).
- Eva lives in England (don’t ask how we met).
- We met online, on Discord (oh my god I just said don’t ask).
- We have been dating for 1 year, 9 months, and 23 days, as of today, October 13, 2022 (…but who’s counting?).
- Did I mention, I love my girlfriend.
Now, Eva and I met in January of 2021, and I started dating her in… January of 2021. If she told me even a year after that I would still be dating her, I would have laughed in her face. At the time, it seemed so impossible for anything to last that long. Furthermore, if I would be able to give one piece of advice for anyone, it is as follows:
- DON’T GET INTO A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP AT 15 YEARS OLD.
Is it funny? Yes. Am I correct? Yes. That said, if you think you met the right person at the right time, go for it. I do not regret having a relationship that young. At the time, I was, as one Mr. Johnny Lee sang in 1980, “lookin’ for love in all the wrong places”. I wanted attention, and my friends were tired of me texting them day after day after day after day after day– I needed someone new to annoy.
At the time, when I met Eva, it was the peak of the pandemic. I was trapped in my house for DAYS on end, and had to talk to my little sibling every single day just to keep my sanity. Times were rough. I wanted to make friends. Online classes wouldn’t allow that to happen, so I was dead set on finding a way in. My father, feeling pitiful over my slowly decaying social life, graciously gifted me a Dell G3 gaming laptop for the coming Christmas (it has a light up keyboard. I love this laptop). Discord was installed the day I got it.
Not wanting to look like a poser, I joined a few random servers to make it look like I was doing something on the app. One direct message to a random server member later, and I got to chatting with a very kind girl I was ninety-nine percent sure wasn’t a forty year old man living in his mother’s basement.
I did not understand what I was getting into when this cute British girl asked me to go out with her late one cold January night over Instagram direct messages.
And for anyone asking, I said yes. This was immediately followed up with confusion on how we would “go out” when we lived 4,000 miles away. Don’t worry, we figured it out.
In all seriousness, Eva has helped get me through some of the hardest times in my life. She is the reason I continue to try, and always helps me when I know I need to take a break but don’t want to admit it. I have spent the last year and a half (and a little bit more) pouring my heart out to her and doing my best to help her too. I am forever grateful to have her, and I wouldn’t want to have anyone else in the whole world.
She makes 4,000 miles feel like nothing.
Meg, this was such an enjoyable blog to read! I (obviously) have not met your girlfriend, but I am glad I know her just a little bit better after reading this post. The story of how you met is really unique. It was definitely hard to maintain friendships during the pandemic, and I am so happy you were able to connect with someone and create a special bond that has lasted 1 year, 9 months, and 23 days so far. I remember making a Discord account during the pandemic. It was at the request of one of my friends, who had a server with all of her friends (of which I knew two) that she encouraged me to join. I talked a total of zero times on that server, which I don’t regret at all. It was just in time for AP exams though, so I would go on study servers and help other people with their algebra homework instead of studying for my physics exam. I think your story shows that even when people couldn’t go outside or when our parents would berate us for having too much screen time, we actually can cultivate special relationships through the Internet. It is really amazing that you have someone like Eva who can help you through hard times, that’s really important and she seems wonderful!
Hi Meg!!
I loved reading your blog about Eva. I could HEAR you through your writing. I adore how expressive you are in both mannerisms and in speech, and I think that this characteristic really shows through your writing.
I definitely empathize with the strange emptiness that followed the pandemic, and the unique plethora of friends that we met online as a result. There are lots of people that I became super close with over the pandemic, only to drift away again as everything returned to an in-person state. It’s kind of crazy to think about how often we were on the internet talking and playing games with people, where as now I find it hard to even find an hour for myself. The pandemic literally had us in a different world.
I’m really happy that you found Eva at a moment when you needed her, and that you’ve been happy together since. I love how Eva is a source of stability and happiness for you, and how your relationship is an example of how the conventional does not equal ideal. Working through a long-distance relationship is hard, and I really admire how you two have worked through the practical difficulties.
Meg, you are special like no other, and even your relationship with your girlfriend reflects that haha.
Hi, Meg! I find your blog dedicated to your girlfriend to be super sweet. It was so cute to see how you guys met and the little niche details about your relationship that make it special. I think it’s amazing that your long-distance relationship has remained strong despite the 4,000 miles between you guys. Your blog format was super nice to read- with the bullet points, pictures, and separated paragraphs. I loved the humour you added to the blog by adding in “Don’t ask how we met” and your all caps. During quarantine, I also found a way to connect back to the world by games and apps like Discord as well. It was a little concerning when you mention that you were “ninety-nine percent sure” they weren’t a “forty-year-old man living in his mother’s basement”, but I’m glad everything worked out in the end! I think it’s so sweet that you were able to find someone new to meet that eventually ended up being your significant other. It’s so cool to see how you can meet different people in all sorts of ways. It always seems like the weirdest occurrences always finds/creates opportunities to meet the people closest to you. Your last line really ties into how much you love your girlfriend by always being willing to go the extra mile for them.
Meg, I really enjoyed reading your blog. The way you speak about your girlfriend with such excitement and passion makes me smile; I think it’s very sweet. I enjoyed your introduction of not liking math, because I too, hate math with the burning passion of a thousand suns. This tangent isn’t really related to the whole of my comment, but I just wanted to mention how much I hated, hate and will hate math. Moving on, I find it so admirable that you are able to have a long distance relationship with your girlfriend, and I found it interesting to see how the pandemic brought the two of you together. During the pandemic, I found that I had more opportunities to interact with nature and disconnect, but that also did lead to my losing a lot of friends. I often wish I had been more proactive about keeping up with online communication when the pandemic hit, and I admire how you were able to make connections amidst the pandemic, and meet your girlfriend over Discord. It reminds me off all of the good that came out of the Pandemic! I am truly glad Eva did not turn out to be a forty year old man, and I hope you keep updating us about Eva in class! Thank you for sharing your story.